Let me first give a head nod to Every Man Ministries, a satellite ministry of Saddleback Church, and my hope is that you will give serious thought to improving, expanding – or starting – your men’s ministry. I give my highest recommendation to the resources of Every Man Ministries.
I also wanted to point you to our Saddleback Staff Standards. As Christian leaders, we need to be above reproach.
Paul wrote, “Don’t be so naive and self-confident. You’re not exempt. You could fall flat on your face as easily as anyone else. Forget about self-confidence; it’s useless. Cultivate God-confidence.” (1 Cor. 10:12, Msg)
We established these in the early years of Saddleback Church to help staff members maintain moral integrity. You may adapt these for use in your own church.
Saddleback Staff Standards
Thou shalt not go to lunch alone with the opposite sex.*
Thou shalt not have the opposite sex pick you up or drive you places when it is just the two of you.*
Thou shalt not kiss any attender of the opposite sex or show affection that could be questioned.*
Thou shalt not visit the opposite sex alone at home.
Thou shalt not counsel the opposite sex alone at the office, and thou shalt not counsel the opposite sex more than once without that person’s mate. Refer them.
Thou shalt not discuss detailed sexual problems with the opposite sex in counseling. Refer them.
Thou shalt not discuss your marriage problems with an attender of the opposite sex.
Thou shalt be careful in answering emails, instant messages, chatrooms, cards, or letters from the opposite sex.
Thou shalt make your secretary your protective ally.
Thou shalt pray for the integrity of other staff members.
* The first 3 do not apply to unmarried staff
“But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.” Eph. 5:3 (NIV)
So…what is your church doing to reach men?
Rick Warren is the Founding Pastor of Saddleback Church. He is also the author of the bestselling books, Purpose Driven Life and Purpose Driven Church.